Conflict has been with us since the days of Cain and Abel. Genesis 4:7-9 Everyday the news tells us more incidents of conflict: Road rage, school shootings, spouse and child abuse. The media is filled with videos of the conflict in the Middle East; again the result of anger and hatred. The nations of the world are calling for some way to manage the conflict.
Conflict management is nothing new.The Apostle Paul gave great advice for dealing with the main ingredient of conflict – anger. What causes you to be angry? Anger is a dangerous emotion, “anger gives a foothold to the devil. Eph. 4:27 The Bible does not tell us to avoid being angry but to avoid nursing our anger. Eph. 4:26-27. If we nurse our anger into a grudge, we will become bitter.
Learn to control your anger – without letting it rule you. When you are angry, confess you feelings to God and ask Him to help you to respond as Christ would. When angry, follow Paul’s advice and resolve the conflict before the sun goes down. Let God; not your anger, determine how you act.
Remember the words of Solomon; “A gentle answer will calm a person’s anger, but an unkind answer will cause more anger.” Proverbs 15:1 (NCV)