Recently I over heard two ladies talking, the one lady was attempting to share a “juicy” bit of gossip. The other lady attempted to stop her “sharing.” The “tale-bearer” responded , “This isn’t gossip; it’s the truth!” Interesting concept but is it alright to share if it’s true?
The Bible has much to say about the proper (and improper) use of the tongue. Our culture sees nothing wrong with sharing someone’s “dirty laundry.” In fact, there companies that make their livelihood sharing gossip. One secular Psychology magazine went as far as saying “tale-bearing” is not only acceptable but beneficial. Really?
It can also be defined as, malicious or slanderous talk or writing about another person or situation with desire or intention to hurt them. It can also be defined as talk or writing about another person or situation in order to turn another’s opinion against that person or situation. Gossip can be truth or falsehood, but it is still gossip. [Bible study on Gossip]
Because of our fallen nature, gossip appeals to us. Proverbs 26:21 Before You repeat something ask yourself:
- Is it true? When something is passed on repeatedly often the facts become distorted. Don’t be guilty of spreading a lie.
- Is it loving? Ephesians 4:15 , 1 Cor. 13:6 Everything we do and say, should be loving.
- Does it edify (Build up)? Eph. 4:29
- Is it “shameful”? It is shameful to talk about what some people do in secret. Ephesians 5:12
Do you know how to stop gossip? Don’t repeat it yourself. “If you don’t have wood, your fire goes out. If you don’t talk about others, arguing dies down”. Proverbs 26:20