…what will it profit what man if he gains the whole world? Mark 8:36
Life’s not all about success. Those are fairly heretical words for most of us men—men trying to ascend—men for whom success in careers, success in raising kids, or success in just looking successful have become so important. Planning for success, working for it, worrying about it—they dominate our everyday lives.
When men introduce one another, they usually say something like, “This is Bill, he is the CEO of… I want you to meet Bob, he is the service manager at…” Men have a tendency to identify other men (and themselves) by their occupation or by what they do but it is NOT who they are. And if they are not careful, they will try to find their worth or value by their success.
Life is not defined by what you have, even when you have a lot” Luke 12:15
Life is partially about success—we’ve got to spend our lives for something, and we should do that something as well as we can. We just can’t make it an ultimate thing. When we focus all, or even most, of our lives on achieving success, we fall short of the full life Jesus promises in John 10:10. We miss those parts of life we’re meant to devote to the success of others.
How many of us sacrifice huge portions of the lives we’re meant to live—loving wives; spending time with kids; eating meals with families; hanging out with friends; helping people in need—spending too much time on our own success? How many of us are unavailable to those who need us most?
My definition of success? Knowing and doing God’s will/purpose in our lives.
“Most men don’t want to fail…even once. We want to measure up and be successful at anything we try. That’s why we don’t like to play if we don’t think we can win. A man’s greatest fear is failure and his greatest pain is regret.
Have you ever failed? If you answered yes cheer up! You’re in good company. Failure is an event, never a person. Don’t internalize a failure until it starts to ferment into regret….Learn from it. Pain can be a great teacher.
Just because you’re down doesn’t mean your out. Not by a long shot. Even in our failures, God can still accomplish his purpose. It’s through our weaknesses that he shows himself strong.
What results? Then you’re going to have to do something different…If you are a Christian, you have resurrection power within you. Tap into it…God loves making weak men strong. Don’t just try to “be a better man.” Be God’s man. Stop trying to tell your story. Start telling his. It’s not about you. It’s about him.”
This blog was taken from “Fight: Winning the Battles that Matter Most”
I understand that change is inevitable (Sigh) and progress is necessary but it seems to me that changes are happening at a phenomenal speed. Some changes are good. Medical technology is becoming so advanced it is a challenge for doctors to keep pace. Our automobiles have technology that was only dreamed about 20-25 years ago. My granddaughter was riding in my Chevrolet El Camino (If you don’t know what that is, ask your grandfather) and she could not figure out how to lower her window because she never saw a car that you had to “manually” lower it.
But there are some changes that do disturb me. My greatest concern is we are not properly preparing our children for adulthood. That became glaringly true during our current Presidental election. Some people were greatly disappointed, devasted, and downright angry, so they protested, rioted, and we “helped” them cope by creating ‘cry rooms.’
When I heard that, I instantly remembered Tom Hanks saying in the movie, A League of Their Own, “There isn’t any crying in baseball!” He was saying to his all woman team when things do not go well, (as the kids say) suck it up and go on.
Schools are failing our children by not allowing them to compete in sports. To keep children from being damaged emotionally, they give everyone a trophy! There are no winners! But how does that work in the adult world when they are disappointed and did not get the job they applied for? Or someone gets the promotion. Or the candidate they voted for did not win!
The reality is life is filled with disappointments. “Anyone who wants to live all out for Christ is in for a lot of trouble; there’s no getting around it. 2 Timothy 3:12 MSG We cannot blame our children for reacting the way they do because we have not prepared them for the future.
Someone said; “The surest way to make life hard for your children is to make it soft for them.”
We hear a lot about the media’s bias on choosing which news to withhold and which to share with the public. Assuredly, their decision is often based on their political leaning. Even conservative journalists may choice not to reveal the “whole” truth.
The Bible is truly “fair and balanced” in telling the truth. It shares “the good, the bad, and the ugly” truth about people’s lives. David’s sexual ‘indiscretion’ was not excluded. 2 Samuel 11. Even the Apostle Paul’s fallout with co-worker Barnabus is recorded in Acts 15:36-41 And then there is Peter’s denial of Christ. John 18:15-27
So why share the “ugly” side of people’s lives? The Bible wanted everyone to know that failure doesn’t have to be final. Proverbs 24:16 says, “for though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again,…” Even the best of us have failed; “Everyone has sinned. No one measures up to God’s glory. Romans 3:23
“Failures, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement. One fails forward toward success.” C.S. Lewis