Balance

Life, to say the least,  can be “challenging.” There is work, household duties, church activities, children’s sports, parenting; you almost need to be a  juggler to keep all the plates in the air.  Stress is a common household reality. Stress comes when life becomes unbalanced. When you give too much attention to one area; another area suffers. 

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One area that is extremely difficult to balance is the disciplining of our children. Too much discipline and the child may become rebellious. [Fathers, don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them….] Ephesians 6:4  Too little discipline and the child will grow with no respect for authority.  [If a child is corrected, they become wise. But a child who is not corrected brings shame to their mother.]  Proverbs 29:15  So the key to successful discipline is a balance.   Two biblical examples: 

1. No parental discipline. Often parents want peace in the home so bad, they refused to confront bad conduct. “Now his father, King David, had never disciplined him at any time…” 1 Kings 1:6 David was a man of God but he allowed his son to do whatever he wanted to do. Result? His son, Adonijah, rebelled against his father and took control of Israel. (I might add, David did nothing to stop him.) 

I have often seen parents run to “recuse” a child from the consequences of their actions. I know it is only natural to want to protect our children from harm and unpleasantness. I knew a mother that was continually bailing her two sons out of jail. When her money ran out, she begged family members for money to bail them out but it never changed their behavior. When she could no longer “rescue” they went to prison, where gave their lives to Christ.   In Luke 15 we have the parable of the lost son. The boy wanted his inheritance so he could go and do whatever he wanted. The father never attempted to stop him leaving, that would only make the problem worse.  It was only after the son hit “bottom”, he saw the folly of his lifestyle, repented and returned home. Luke 15:17-18   

I am not saying that we should NEVER go the aid of our children, there are times when showing Christ’s love and forgiveness will turn the child around. In fact, Jesus said to GO and search for the lost sheep and rescue them!  Luke 15:4-7

So how is a parent supposed to know whether to rescue their child or allow them to experience the school of hard knocks? Good question! 

Good question! If you want to know what God wants you to do, ask him, and he will gladly tell you James 1:5  TLB

But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth… John 16:13

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

   

 

 

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Grow  UP!

I understand that change is inevitable (Sigh) and progress is necessary but it seems to me that changes are happening at a phenomenal speed. Some changes are good. Medical technology is becoming so advanced it is a challenge for doctors to keep pace. Our automobiles have technology that was only dreamed about 20-25 years ago. My granddaughter was riding in my Chevrolet El Camino (If you don’t know what that is, ask your grandfather) and she could not figure out how to lower her window because she never saw a car that you had to “manually” lower it.

But there are some changes that do disturb me. My greatest concern is we are not properly preparing our children for adulthood. That became glaringly true during our current Presidental election. Some people were greatly disappointed, devasted, and downright angry, so they protested, rioted, and we “helped” them cope by creating ‘cry rooms.’ 

When I heard that, I instantly remembered Tom Hanks saying in the movie, A League of Their Own, “There isn’t any crying in baseball!” He was saying to his all woman team when things do not go well, (as the kids say) suck it up and go on.

Schools are failing our children by not allowing them to compete in sports. To keep children from being damaged emotionally, they give everyone a trophy! There are no winners! But how does that work in the adult world when they are disappointed and did not get the job they applied for? Or someone gets the promotion. Or the candidate they voted for did not win! 

The reality is life is filled with disappointments. “Anyone who wants to live all out for Christ is in for a lot of trouble; there’s no getting around it. 2 Timothy 3:12 MSG We cannot blame our children for reacting the way they do because we have not prepared them for the future.

Someone said; “The surest way to make life hard for your children is to make it soft for them.”

And God Created…

My wife and I have friends who have three year-old twin girls, Rebekah and Hannah. The parents are doing such a great job raising them to love God. Their mother over-heard them talking and discovered they  were reciting  Scriptures they had learned. Here is the passage they quoted:

In the beginning, God created the heaven and earth.” And like all Bible scholars, they quoted the Bible reference = God 1:1 Out of the mouths of babes,